Changes can be challenging.
Your stage of life may involve adjusting to a life-altering diagnosis, caring for a loved one, starting a new job, or dealing with an empty nest. Different transitions bring different concerns.
Depending on what type of transition you are facing, we may explore your values, work through issues of meaning, roleplay for an upcoming meeting, or learn some grounding techniques to help you stay centered.
As a Christian therapist, I will meet you right where you are, without judgement, incorporating your values and as much or as little spiritual integration if you'd like.
There is hope for healing and I consider it a privilege to walk alongside you in your journey toward living the best life you can.
If you've experienced fertility issues, pregnancy loss, a traumatic birth, or postpartum difficulties, it can feel overwhelming.
As someone who has experienced all of the above, I get it.
Many women go through these circumstances, silently thinking to themselves, "It wasn't supposed to be this way." Some wonder why it seems so easy for others; others were taught we simply don't talk about these things. And so they suffer in silence.
I'm here to tell you: You're not alone.
I will walk with you every step of the way, and give you a safe space to explore your feelings and experiences, without judgment.
I can also give you some experimental things to try that may help alleviate some of the distress and help you feel more like yourself.
GRIEF AND LOSS: No two people experience grief or loss the same. As someone who has experienced both, I can sit with you in understanding to gently hold the grief and pain while we walk the path together. I use a two-sided grief model, that honors both looking back and moving forward.
DEPRESSION: Depression is one of the most common reasons people seek help and rates of depression significantly increased in the past few years. Some people describe recovering from depression as being like waking up or coming out from under a deep, dark fog.
WHAT THEY HAVE IN COMMON: Whether grieving or experiencing depression, you may notice symptoms such as changes in appetite, energy levels, self-esteem, motivation, concentration, and even sleep. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has been shown to help with these symptoms, which is why I start with CBT for a lot of my clients.
Many find this approach helps them to gain a clearer perspective and regain the motivation they once had for life and the things they enjoy. Like anything truly helpful, it takes some effort and willingness to experiment by trying things differently.
After symptoms have decreased by working with CBT, many of my clients find benefit in exploring other modalities such as Internal Family Systems (learning about different parts of yourself), Logotherapy (finding healing in meaning & purpose), Enneagram (discovering how you show up in the world), or Emotionally Focused Therapy (working on adult relationships & attachment/bonding).
You may be someone who has great difficulty in allowing yourself to even feel anger. You might feel guilty for even thinking about expressing it, because you learned anger is bad.
Or perhaps you're someone who is overburdened by many demands, disconnected from most emotions, but anger feels like the safest one. Thing build up and then you blow up. You yell at the people you love and then you feel terrible.
I find that my clients who struggle with anger have really good reasons for feeling the way that they do, but are finding that anger is getting in the way of getting what they want for their lives. If that's you...
Are you ready to try something different?
My focus is to help individuals heal by gently assisting them to make subtle shifts in their thoughts and behavior. The primary methods I use are Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), positive psychology, mindfulness, existential therapy, and solution-focused therapy. Many clients who struggle with anger were raised by Emotionally Immature Parents who did not give them choices. To counteract this, I will support your sense of agency by giving you lots of choices throughout the process of healing.
I also believe that therapy shouldn't be mysterious so I'll be with you every step of the way.
It takes effort and practice, but things can be different.
If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 988 or text 741741.
If you are experiencing a medical emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Barbara Jandu does not provide crisis counseling or emergency services.
The information provided on this website does not substitute for or establish a professional, therapeutic relationship.
Barbara Jandu is a Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT 120259.
Her supervisor, Mariana Nenadic Shanks, M.A., is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT 53697, and is qualified to provide supervision.
Both Barbara and Mariana are affiliated with Christian Counseling Center-San Jose, located at 3880 S. Bascom Avenue, Suite 220 in San Jose, California.
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